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My girlfriend named her cat after me. Now I'm weirded out. Should I ask her to rename it?

Harry, Mesa, AZ

Jimmy The Bartender® answers

Ask her? Convince her! I haven't been this freaked since I saw a guy put maple syrup on his fries. But don't say you're creeped out. She's trying to be nice, so she deserves some kindness in response. Maybe you could tell her that the name thing is just straight-up confusing. It is, after all. People and pets can't share names in the same house. What would happen if she called to you from bed? Let's not find out.

I'm the only young guy in an office full of women. How do I relate?

Chris, Atlanta, GA

Jimmy The Bartender® answers

Do what I do, Chris. Realize that, no matter how many Bellinis or cosmopolitans they may order, women have a lot more going on than what you've caught on Sex and the City. Mine the vast common ground that sits between lipstick and jockstraps. Instant conversation starters: last night's episode of Lost, American Idol, or any other gender-neutral TV show; reviews of local Thai restaurants; weekend plans.

My girl and her male coworker have a tight relationship, full of inside jokes and flirting. Whenever we're together, I feel out of the loop. How do I cope?

Brady, Philadelphia, PA

Jimmy The Bartender® answers

As long as nothing's going on (you're sure about this, right?), keep your distance. If you show you're man enough to respect her individual loops, then she has no choice but to do the same for you. And as long as you're going home with her, that other guy shouldn't bother you.

My friend is getting ready to pop the question to a girl he's been dating for just 6 months. He says he wants my honest opinion. I think it's a mistake. Do I tell him?

Alex, Gresham, OR

Jimmy The Bartender® answers

I can think of a million bad times for you to tell your friend you don't like his lady: when he first meets her, when he's watching her walk toward him down the aisle, when he's handing out cigars after his first kid is born. But Alex, my man, your friend is asking for your opinion at the perfect moment: when there's still plenty of time for him to figure out what to do with the relationship. If now's not the best time to speak up, I don't know when will be.

I'm in the military, where I'll be for the next 3 years. The love of my life lives somewhere else. How do I keep her mine until I get home?

James, Germany

Jimmy The Bartender® answers

I feel for you, son, especially because 3 years is a long time. I think your first tactic is to launch an airmail assault -- pictures, letters, whatever you want. The trick is this: You have to remind her that you're waiting -- without pressuring her to do the same.